I need your advice people...?

I think you should stop bring it up because really she is to young to handle it all .I also think calling you Mommy and Daddy is fine in fact its good! Who else does she have besides you to be her Mommy? Dont be cruel by denying her a Mom in her life because you got the chance to have one right? Unless you are planning on giving up Matilda let her call you and your husband that because she needs that.Your too worried about facts .She doesnt need facts that hurt her brought up.She knows your not her real Mommy but that doesnt change the fact that she still desperately needs a Mommy.Why dont you forget all the crap and just decide to adopt her either legally or simply in your heart and become her Mommy.Love her like a good Mom would.Bake cookies and give hugs.Unless you plan to give her up there is no reason for her not to call you Mommy right now.Her Mommy and sadly yours is Gone. Every kid needs someone to call Mom and Dad.Its just a fact and by doing it she is showing that she needs that.You can discuss it more when she is older like 10 or 14 when she is ready not when you are .You are still hurting to obviously and that may cause you to feel guilty when she calls you that but dont.She is only 5. Let her be a kid.The needy behavior will go away with time.Many children who suffer from traumatic loss of the parents will regress or wet the bed .What you all need is to pull together and look to a future as a family.Talking to a counselor may help or not.I dont know. She sounds pretty normal all things considered. Just make sure she feels secure and loved. She is probly afraid she will lose you the same way she did your parents.Nothing unusaul there. It will take time.Edit Im sorry she is six thats still really little.I think she is regressing now because you keep bringing it up.Dont get upset but what good could it possibly do to remind her your not her real parents at such a young age?Its like by saying Im not your real Mom its also kind of like saying I dont want to be your Mom in her sensitive perspective. You need to take a hard look at all this.If your parents have been gone since she was 2 your all she remembers probly and she needs you to reure her of your love and that you want to be her Mom. I think talking about it has somehow caused her to feel sensitive and question her place in your home. She needs someone to want to be her Mommy.